Every moment offers a choice point, a conscious decision to direct our energy, and I’m curious about how we can practice directing our energy on the topic of the weather. You see, when we practice patterns of discord, we practice a vibration of what’s unwanted.
We took each stack of books by category into the office and, before we put them on the shelves, we asked the question: “Does this item make me feel happy or is it useful to me?” If the answer was “yes,” from either one of us, we kept the book. It took a double “no” to discard.
It's spring in the Midwest, and I'm welcoming it happily.
To me, spring brings such a sense of excitement and possibility—crocuses peek out and birds sing sweetly—and soon gardens will be tilled and seeds will be buried in the dirt so that magic can happen. While thinking about this growth process, I’ve taken time to ask myself what I’m planting, now, that I can harvest in the future. It's a great time to ask yourself this question, too, in your pursuit to live your life wth joy and create the relationships you most desire to experience. Spring is a good time to consider--
What are you calling into your experience in life, this year?
What do you want to feel like 2 or 3 or 4 months from now?
What can you do, staring today, to plant and nurture your future experiences?
Do you have the right climate for your dreams and desires to come to fruition?
As you consider these questions, above, also take some time to journal about how you're moving forward, using these questions, below. Spring lends itself to creating anew, with the key ingredients--
How you can bring energy and attention to what you're creating? What can you do to focus on it—to shine your own “light” on it?
Water also required.
How can you be in flow with your new dream or desire? Feel it washing over you. Feed it with gentleness.
Soil—rich and ready.
What needs preparing so that your dream or desire is in fertile ground, ready to support your growth?
Planting seeds too close together chokes out one or the other or both. How can you make space for what you’re creating? Does something in your current experience need to go in order to make space?
What atmosphere is best for your dreams and desires to thrive? Do you need to clear out the smog of negative thinking or others’ disbelief in your dream?
Share how you're planting seeds and creating a beautiful harvest in the Comments section!
New Year's Resolutions are okay, I suppose. Most people I talk with, though, say that they fail to uphold their resolution longer than a few weeks into the new year. Resolutions are not a bad idea, but there is something that is much more important that most people don’t do, ever: define what they believe about who they are, why they are here on Earth, and what is possible for their lives.
If you're doing anything to prepare for the new year, prepare by getting clear about what you truly believe.
Not what your mother believes.
Not what your sister believes.
Not what your neighbor believes.
Not what your boss believes.
Not even what you’re told to believe by anyone in a role of authority. All of these people may help shape what you believe—as could science and religion and experience and a number of other influences.
The key is to define what YOU believe. Go ahead, right now, and write down your core beliefs about the big, important concepts, such as who you truly are; what you’re here to contribute; how your family or origin plays a role in your life; and what the journey of your soul has been and will be.
Why define your beliefs? What you believe is true about you, your life, and the universe is determinant of how you think, the energy you put out, and the way you show up every day. You must have something bigger than yourself to pull you forward in life. You must claim something beyond a mindless routine of sleep, awaken, eat, work, watch Game of Thrones, repeat. You must, because no one else on this planet can believe on your behalf.
It’s critical to understand this point: what you believe dictates what you think and what you think directs your words, your actions, and therefore, your life. As writer Annie Dillard explains in The Writing Life, “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” How you show up every, single day is predicated on what you believe about this life.
You are responsible for our own life story, and that responsibility grows when you decide to take control of the one thing that belongs to you alone: the joy and bliss of your story. The core beliefs that I invite you to define are written from the, "I, me, my" perspective and create more joy, peace, compassion, forgiveness, love, and potential in your life. The beliefs that are truest to your inner knowing a free of conditioned limitations.
Here’s a concrete example of how powerful our beliefs are from a behavioral science perspective. In a study that was published by the American Psychological Association, researchers from Yale University documented that middle-aged adults who held more positive beliefs about aging lived an average of 7.6 years longer than those who held more negative beliefs, even when controlling for current health and other risk factors.
Whoa. Beliefs can even affect the length of your life. That's another reason it's critical for you to know what you actually believe.
So, for 2018, skip the resolutions and make it your priority to define your beliefs.
If you want an exercise to guide your in writing your Core Beliefs, you can click here to receive my 7 Core Beliefs Exercise.
Anella Wetter is a writer, an intuitive coach, and a yoga & Pilates teacher.
I landed in New York City before 5 p.m. yesterday to visit my daughter, and it was already dark here in the far eastern edge of the Eastern time zone. It's cold, too.
Today, the cold wind is warmed by the bright sunlight, and the city feels extra busy. Forecasters say that snow is on the way. Holiday songs play as I stroll like a tourist to 34th Street to view the Macy’s holiday windows; this year’s theme is, “The Perfect Gift Brings People Together.” Each window depicts a scene about the joy of sharing this holiday season with those we love. I walk alone; my daughter is in her office for a few hours.
I spend time inside Macy’s, too, dazzled by the elaborately decorated ceilings. Tinsel, lights, and oversized ornaments are arranged into festive delights for my eyes. I see so much energy poured into the holiday of consumerism; it captures my attention more than ever. I’m disconnected from all that cheer this year, not because I’m bah-humbugging the season, but because I feel little desire to shop, stress, hustle, wrap, and adorn.
I end up at the main branch of the public library on Broadway, in the periodical reading room on the west-most corner of the building, adjacent to Bryant Park. Signs mark it as a quiet zone, and it is, except for the clicking sounds of computer keyboards. I check out the latest issue of Literary Review, whose tag line is “Britain’s Best-loved Literary Magazine.” I start with the cover story, “Becoming Sylvia Plath,” a review of a new book that chronicles 800 of the poet’s personal letters. I settle in and read for a couple of hours, intrigued by a review of a new book about Joseph Conrad, the writer inviting me to wonder what Conrad would think about this global world today. When I was a teacher, I assigned Conrad’s Heart of Darkness to my students, and we discussed its themes of hypocrisy, ambiguity, and moral confusion. I then read a review of Catherine Nixey’s new book about Constantine’s destruction of classical art and human life in the newly-Christian 4th century Roman Empire and pondered the writer's perspective on the dark side of the rise of the Christian religion. I look out a window to notice the stream of shoppers wandering through the temporary stores erected in the park, another deference to the season. I return the Review to the desk clerk, noticing the articles I read focused upon the shadows of human existence.
Back out in the city, I hear myself thinking about our decision not to put up a Christmas tree this year. We’ll decorate the mantles and hang the wreaths, but we’re not untangling lights and unwrapping each ornament one-by-one. My husband and I agree that it’s okay that neither of us desire to invest our time in preparation. I want to invest my time in being with the people I care most about, in making some gifts to give, in my writing, and in taking ever-more care of my body. It feels like the season is beckoning me to do what feels lightest.
I’m interpreting the signs of nature’s shorter days to mean slow down, stay inside, bundle up, invite stillness, and allow time to offer its gifts to me. The season upon us is marked by the winter solstice, solstice roughly meaning that the sun stands still. As the night is longest on December 21, the day after begins the season of light where the days get longer and longer. Light grows more and more visible each day. I desire to be more mindfully prepared for the lightness on the other side of the season.
Before then, though, we are in the darkest time of the year. Darkness shrouds our ability to see, literally. Metaphorically, darkness hides the human condition and maybe the invitation of the season is for us to examine the ways we allow our own darkness to block our ability to be in sympathetic communion with others.
Slowing down may feel hard to do with holiday expectations. Yet, it may require slowing down in order to be more aware of the people we will spend time with this holiday. When we slow down, we become more present with ourselves, which is required in order to be more present with others. Slowing down will help us be receptive to the clues, guideposts, and messages that we will miss if we're over-doing, over-busy, and unaware. Resolve now to make the season truly joyous and hopeful by nurturing yourself. Invite your family to join you. Set a new trend, a new “perfect gift” to those you love, and find your way to stand still with the sun.
Sit with yourself in the coming days. Reflect upon the year that’s ending. Envision the year that’s awakening. Deepen how you care for your body. Give of your time to others. Think of ways that you can invest in you on the days you have off work. Maybe this year, do the opposite of what’s typical for you. Maybe you don’t rush and race. Maybe take cues from the long nights at hand and simply linger until there is more light.
Surround yourself with women who refuse to—
Place their agenda upon you, to make you into someone you are not; find the women who will be patiently with you as you become the fullness of who you are.
Need to impose a time line on your evolution; the women who trust in the organicity of your journey are seeking you, too.
View you as different from themselves; the women you want are the ones who see that common humanity in everyone’s life’s experiences.
Judge you; find women who see that any judgment is calling their own souls to look at what it is in them that is ready to be seen and be healed.
Feel envious of you; look for women who know that envy is an invitation to look at ways they are letting themselves down.
Surround yourself with women who will only—
See themselves in you, and love both you and them.
Hold you in their arms while you cry, grieve, scream.
Caress your head while you delve, dive, find the very bottom of the pain.
Speak what feels true to them, gently, compassionately, burningly.
Massage your feet as you move old wounds out of where they are lodged in your body.
Laugh when you are able to finally laugh.
Who are the women in your life who REFUSE TO and WILL ONLY? Write their names on your heart. Then, tell them you love them.