My Relationship Story
After my 22-year marriage ended in divorce in 2005, I felt lost, unclear about who I was, uncertain about what I wanted, and doubtful that a fulfilling, new relationship was even possible for me.
In those years after my divorce, I also began to deepen into a journey of personal growth, sparked by a new-found love for yoga and feeling the need to “counterbalance” the number of miles I was running each week, training for a marathon...which became 2 marathons. My practice on the yoga mat proved an incredibly important way that I cleared my mind and focused on my breath and moved my body.
It was the mindfulness of yoga that allowed me to connect with me, to listen to me, and to hear my own truth. The first time I heard my inner voice with great clarity was on a yoga mat and the message was, “you know your truth; live it.”
This message became my inner compass. With this new connection to me, I began to be able to look at my relationship patterns and was able to better discern what was helpful and what was destructive. The relationships I was in after my divorce taught me the consequences of continuing to settle for less than—less than feeling treasured, less than feeling happy, less than feeling fulfilled.
Healing had begun: healing from disappointment, pain, heartbreak, anger, frustration—negative emotions that had long been my unwelcome guests.
Inspired by an article I read in Oprah magazine in 2008, I made a list of the 100 characteristics I desired--even deserved--in a future partner. I wrote this list of 100 descriptions as if I were writing a declaration of what I wanted. At the top of the page I wrote, HEAR ME UNIVERSE, as if I were broadcasting my deepest desires out to the cosmos with the expectation that I would be heard and my heart’s desires would be met.
Did I feel a little silly? Yes. A little naive? Yes. But I also knew that the relationships I had been in were NOT in alignment with what I wanted. So, what did I really have to lose?
MY OWN STORY FUELS My passion for helping women attract their ideal match
The following year--and after another less-than relationship--I met a guy for coffee. A guy I asked out for coffee. A guy from an online dating site. In that first conversation, I knew he possessed so many characteristics from my list. Within the first month we knew each other, I bravely gave him a copy of my list--well, I put it in an envelope, handed it to him as he was leaving for a long flight, and suggested he read it on the plane. In our conversation late that day, he noted, “oh, and by the way, I scored a 98.” This guy, now my husband of 7 years, is my ideal match--a giver, successful, ambitious, a thinker, adventurous, takes responsibility, passionate about what matters to him and is committed to self-improvement.
What I can see now is that I shifted my belief about what’s possible. I shifted my beliefs about my own worthiness to experience the kind of relationship I truly desired. I lessened my focus on the anger, disappointment, resentment, and bitterness about past relationships--including my 22-year marriage--and could see all of the relationships as my greatest teachers, because they informed WHAT I TRULY WANTED. I gained great clarity on my heart’s deepest desires .
My passion is to support women to transform their relationship disappointment, anger, frustration, sadness and heartache into with strength, courage, power, clarity and purpose.
My Career Story
After my first marriage ended in 2005, my career sustained me, financially and emotionally. It was my second career (having been a high school English teacher for 14 years) as a sales manager for a global learning company, where we created curriculum materials and professional-development services for teachers.
I had the good fortune of success in my professional life, yet, my big "why" was always about someone else. I worked hard to attain success so that I could provide for my family. I worked hard to attain success so that I could honor the promise I made about funding my children's education. I worked hard to help everyone on my team achieve their goals. I worked for reasons outside of myself.
My work in the world was someone else's creation.
All the deep, soul-level, personal growth I'd made presented to me another challenge: would I be willing to leave my corporate career behind and create from my heart what I wanted to share with the world? Would I be able to leave my comfortable salary and benefits? Would I be brave enough to give it all up for the possibility of living in the center of my desire?
The question really came down to this: was I willing to claim what I wanted? I had to burn down old, limiting beliefs about my responsibility to others, my old habit to play small, and I had to once again honor my inner voice that was begging me to make this big change.
It's from this experience and from my passionate desire to help women honor their inner voices that I offer my work to the world.
My promise to my clients
I will always see your greatest potential, support what makes you whole and fulfilled, and ask for the best from you. If you are ready to step fully into your life, I commit helping you to heal and create your personal story of happiness and fulfillment.
My Professional Bio
Anella Wetter received her BA in English from the University of Kentucky and her M. Ed., from Georgetown College. In addition, she is trained and Certified by Mike Dooley in Infinite Possibilities: The Art of Living Your Dreams. Anella has had extensive training through Development Dimensions International (DDI), including courses in Improving Poor Performance, Advanced Coaching, and Communicating for Success. She is the founder of Anella Wetter Coaching. She has helped hundreds of women from around the world to declare that they are worthy of the life of their dreams, to embrace all the lessons learned in the past, and to claim what their hearts' deeply desire.
I'm Anella Wetter, speaker, writer, teacher, empowerment coach, and believer in the magic of life. I work with women who want to thrive in every role they play in life: empowered woman, career-minded professional, remarkable mother, and powerful partner.
Manifest the life of your dreams.