Here’s the truth: I wrote #19 to indicate that I desired to attract someone who cared for himself enough to cook for himself. I wanted someone with an independent spirit who liked to contribute to a relationship in most every way, including shared responsibility for making meals.

Here’s the other truth: the bonus I received was that my husband and I love to cook together. Yes, he does make meals FOR me (#15 makes breakfast!), but there’s practically no better time than when we arrive in the kitchen at the end of a full day, put on music in the background, and create a meal together. It is one of the most giving acts: to prepare food for each other.