Hear Me Universe #6. Kind

Hear Me Universe
#6. kind

A kind heart. A kind spirit. A kind demeanor. A kind smile. A kind gesture.

What I know is that kindness spreads kindness, and I expressed this desire on my list to experience kindness, to be kindness, and to expand kindness. What I focus upon expands, so I choose to focus on what I want.

And, kindness is not just defined by the act.

As Mark Twain wrote, "Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see." Kindness, therefore, is an energy that we FEEL in the giving and receiving of such acts.

Hear Me Universe #5. Smart

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#5. smart

Yep. Smart. I love deep, philosophical conversations. I love to talk about topics that feel complex. When I wrote "smart," I felt that engagement in a conversation that comes from a willingness to think.

When my kids were growing up, their dad and I wanted to help them be thinkers, so we asked them to choose a topic each week that they wanted to learn about (the choice was 100% theirs), read and learn about it, and come to the dinner table on Sunday evenings and talk about the topic. They were so adorable and sincere, showing up each week to share the information they learned. It was our way of cultivating intellectual curiosity and, yes, knowledge. No, it didn't last years, but the number of Sundays we gathered for dinner to learn and talk are memories that I treasure.

"Knowledge is power." This phrase is often attributed to Francis Bacon, in his Meditationes Sacrae (1597), and has been used over and over by other great thinkers.

So, in making your list, consider what experiences you've had that you really liked and let that feeling guide your love list. You're the creator, here, so create what you want.

Hear Me Universe #7. Has Expressive Eyes

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#7. has expressive eyes

We've all heard, "eyes are the windows of the soul," and while I can't verify a source of this statement, I know it's true. Mothers insist that their children, "look at my eyes," when they desire a focused conversation. "Eye contact" is a speaker's strength when connecting with an audience. Matching some's gaze upon a first meeting is a way I practice remembering people's names.

So, yes, it's in the eyes, and we likely all have expressive ones. I just knew I wanted to look in his eyes and see beyond what's obvious.

Hear Me Universe #4. Is a Giver

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#4. is a giver

Making my list, I was calling in an energetic match--someone who offers back to me what I offer. Something I love about me is my desire to be helpful to others, to do good deeds, to make others feel special.

Who wouldn't like that, yes?

Two givers sharing this life feels in balance, encourages each to desire to give even more, and attracts others who also share of themselves willingly. My husband and I love to use the phrase, "it's an AND universe," shifting from a limited, either/or mindset, to being open to all that's possible.

Practice giving. See what comes back to you.

Hear Me Universe #3. Is Faithful to Me

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#3. is faithful to me

Commitment. Trust. Safety. Connection.

#3 is not just about fidelity. It's also about loyalty, honesty, reliance, belief. In the energy body, these human needs are associated with the 1st or root chakra. In Sanskrit, the root chakra is called the Muladhara: Mula meaning “root” and Adhara, which means “support” or “base.” For all humans, strength in this energy center is foundational, literally, for a heathy presence in the world.

In building your list, what is foundational to you?

Hear Me Universe #2. Passionate Lover

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#2. passionate lover

Yes, I claimed it! I desired a match to my passion. I show up in the world "all in," and sometimes I've felt the sting of this energy. Yet, here's what I believe: this beautiful, precious life is ours to create, and in making my love list, I refused to hold back on how I wanted to feel. I wanted a lover who would offer pleasure to my body and who would show me fully his desire for me.

In writing this post, I'm breathing through the little hint of embarrassment, releasing the block I sometimes create to receiving, sitting with the truth that my husband's passion for me is a gift, and I fully receive his physical expressions of love.