“There’s a trick to the 'graceful exit.' It begins with the vision to recognize when a job, a life stage, or a relationship is over — and let it go. It means leaving what’s over without denying its validity or its past importance to our lives. It involves a sense of future, a belief that every exit line is an entry, that we are moving up, rather than out.”

― Ellen Goodman

We usher in a new year with much anticipation and excitement. The ending of this year welcomes the beginning of the next.  Many of us celebrate the new year by being with friends and family
How could we apply this anticipatory energy to all endings and beginnings?
What if all endings could be beautiful beginnings?
What if you could feel whatever loss you need to feel with what’s falling away and, simultaneously, see the possibility in what is beginning?

Get clear on what you do want.

One way to envision what’s possible is to write how you want your life to be. Use your journal, as it’s where you tell the truth about yourself, to yourself. Use a blank page and draw a line vertically down the center, making 2 columns. Label one column ENDING and the other BEGINNING. In the ENDING column, acknowledge what’s falling away, what is changing, what you are letting go of. In the BEGINNING column, write about the possibilities that are now available to you.

Get physically healthy.

If you do not have an exercise commitment, now is the time to start. Anytime we are experiencing important life changes, our subconscious mind resists and our bodies want to stay in old habits. According to WebMD, when you exercise, your body releases chemicals called endorphins. These endorphins interact with the receptors in your brain that reduce your perception of pain. Endorphins also trigger a positive feeling in the body, similar to that of morphine. If the changes you are making feel energetically heavy, exercise is crucial to your success. It’s possible that this transformational time in your life will springboard you into a healthier version of yourself.

Build your support team.

An attorney can handle legal issues, if you’re experiencing the end of a marriage, for example. Other professionals, like a therapist or finance expert can help your understand your path forward, many times more affordable than an attorney. Friends and family may or may not understand what you are going through, but unbiased support is critical. Find those who will help you stay open to possibility, future focused, and resilient through the changes. Ask directly for their help and be clear about what you need from them. Your willingness to say, “I’m determined to make this ending a beautiful beginning,” and to have help in order to accomplish that is a sign that you will rise to new heights.


About Anella Wetter

Anella is a speaker, writer, and a coach--empowering women to grow from a cracked-open heart. Anella coaches women through relationship transitions--divorce, post-divorce dating, and attracting an ideal match. You can connect with her at www.anellawetter.com


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