Hear Me Universe #71. Keeps Commitments

So many characteristics connect to someone who keeps commitments: thoughtful, mindful, has integrity, plain ol’ organized. When you say, “I will do X,” and then don’t, your subconscious mind will register the gap and you will feel sense of chaos, busyness, or self-doubt. In order to design your reality to be consistent with your thoughts and words, you must act upon those thoughts and words.Oh, yes, I—like you—have absolutely missed commitments. Always unintentionally, you say? Well, no doubt, and yet, that gap still exists between what you committed and what you completed.Yoda from Star Wars, understood this when he commanded Luke Skywalker, "Do or do not. There is no try."How can you create accountability to yourself to keep commitments? Your challenge is to consciously intend to the commitment. Develop your own tools that work—a reminder list? a calendar entry? a work-flow schedule?And, be sure that what you choose to say, “Yes, I will...” to is what you truly WILL do—it’s aligned with your priorities, your values, your goals. Your time is your most valuable commodity. So, when you say, “yes,” make a plan to slay the beast that begins to grow from the moment you feel the pang of the gap between what you said and what action you’ve taken.

Hear Me Universe #70. Embraces Traditions

I love traditions that create joyous memories, so I wrote this item on my love list to ask for a partner who also values traditions and would both keep old traditions and create new ones. In this life, I truly believe that celebrating ANYTHING with friends and family is the very best kind of memory to create.I created a particular tradition that I adore. From the time my kids were little—kindergarten and younger—we’ve taken a family beach vacation. It’s the kind of beach vacation where we rarely wear “real” clothes—only swimsuits—and we play in the sun, surf, and sand. We laugh. We play board games. We cook meals together. We use the same sand castle forms that we’ve had since 1992. We compete in Bocce. After dark, we walk along the beach use flashlights to spy hermit crabs. The kids bring friends. It’s the most blissful experience that I created, and I always want to experience this beautiful time, by the sea, with those I love the most.When Craig and I met, we decided to marry at the beach, during our annual family vacation. Craig loved the beach tradition, so on a Monday morning at 9 AM, my children, their friends, Craig and I walked out to the edge of the surf and said our vows to one another. I hold that memory so very special, a perfect blending of an old, family tradition with the union of our new family member, my husband.Hold tightly to those traditions that serve your highest and greatest good, that you love sharing with others, and that supply you with endless love and lasting memories.

Hear Me Universe #69. Remembers Holidays

If I were writing this list again now, I might reword this one to say, “prepares for holiday celebrations,” or “has enthusiasm for holidays.” My intention was to attract a partner who would  be my partner in planning, preparing for, sharing, and celebrating those special days each year that we call “holidays.” I even desired someone who would think of ideas that I hadn’t considered, innovative ways to celebrate with family and friends. The spirit of celebration and joy! The anticipation and excitement leading up to a holiday! The essence I desired was to experience the sheer delight of festivity with my love and holidays present a perfect context for reveling in the happiness of life.What shared enthusiasm would you desire in a perfect match?

Hear Me Universe #68. Buys Me Meaningful Gifts

You know what it’s like to select the perfect gift for someone? You have to listen to them, understand them, give thoughtful consideration, reject some easy options, and desire to see them open your gift and know that it’s perfect for them.When I wrote “buys me meaningful gifts,” I wanted to attract someone who would tuck away little inspirations from our conversations and take action to buy that thing I named that I'd like to have. Or, when browsing in a store, I wanted to have a partner who would see something and just know it’s right for me, because he had listened carefully.  “Meaningful” doesn’t have to be lavish—though that’s certainly welcomed—but I invited that feeling you have when you open a gift from someone and think, “oh, it’s perfect for me!”

Hear Me Universe #67. Dotes On Me

Adores me. Treasures me. Cherishes me. Kisses my forehead.There are items on my list that called up energy for me that I had to work through. I am a strong, independent woman. I have created so much goodness in my life by taking on challenges and leading with gusto. In those post-divorce years, I arrived at a point in my life where I chose to be alone, rather than be in a relationship that didn’t serve my highest and greatest good. So, when I was writing my love list and I felt a desire that called me to receive from another, I resisted. I had associated receiving with weakness at times in my life. I had to shift that energy in order to open myself to being cared for in the way I knew my heart desired.Make your list full of outrageous desires! Don’t hold back. This is YOUR love list of YOUR desires. Who cares if your friends don’t share your desires. If your heart tells you that you want a particular experience, write it on your love list. If a characteristic feels a little hard or embarrassing to write down, write it down quickly! Don’t let your ego and your judgment waylay what you truly want.You have to name it to claim it.

Hear Me Universe #66. Adventurous

I don’t necessarily mean extreme adventure, like cliff jumping or shark diving—though a part of me desires to experience the world’s wonders. I wanted to attract a match to this daring, crazy, and excited part of me that usually answers, “yes,” first, even if I retract the answer after careful consideration. Living a life of safety is an option, but I like to imagine the experience that feels impossible or scary or unattainable and challenge my limitations.I’ve run marathons, completed a Tough Mudder (with my husband, Craig), taken a helicopter ride over Kauai, an island sculpted by nature for six million years, and most of its awe-inspiring sights are inaccessible from the ground. Adventures like volcano trekking, cave diving, and hiking the Appalachian Trail all excite me.In writing my love list, I dreamed. I fantasized. I thought beyond the limits of my current life and used the list to create a future that I wanted to experience. Write your list from this energy by asking yourself, “what both scares and thrills my spirit?” and you’ll have the makings of a list of grand possibilities.