All Endings are Beautiful Beginnings

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All Endings are Beautiful Beginnings

“There’s a trick to the 'graceful exit.' It begins with the vision to recognize when a job, a life stage, or a relationship is over — and let it go. It means leaving what’s over without denying its validity or its past importance to our lives. It involves a sense of future, a belief that every exit line is an entry, that we are moving up, rather than out.”

― Ellen Goodman


We usher in a new year with much anticipation and excitement. The ending of this year welcomes the beginning of the next.  Many of us celebrate the new year by being with friends and family
 
How could we apply this anticipatory energy to all endings and beginnings?
 
What if all endings could be beautiful beginnings?
 
What if you could feel whatever loss you need to feel with what’s falling away and, simultaneously, see the possibility in what is beginning?

Get clear on what you do want.

One way to envision what’s possible is to write how you want your life to be. Use your journal, as it’s where you tell the truth about yourself, to yourself. Use a blank page and draw a line vertically down the center, making 2 columns. Label one column ENDING and the other BEGINNING. In the ENDING column, acknowledge what’s falling away, what is changing, what you are letting go of. In the BEGINNING column, write about the possibilities that are now available to you.

Get physically healthy.

If you do not have an exercise commitment, now is the time to start. Anytime we are experiencing important life changes, our subconscious mind resists and our bodies want to stay in old habits. According to WebMD, when you exercise, your body releases chemicals called endorphins. These endorphins interact with the receptors in your brain that reduce your perception of pain. Endorphins also trigger a positive feeling in the body, similar to that of morphine. If the changes you are making feel energetically heavy, exercise is crucial to your success. It’s possible that this transformational time in your life will springboard you into a healthier version of yourself.

Build your support team.

An attorney can handle legal issues, if you’re experiencing the end of a marriage, for example. Other professionals, like a therapist or finance expert can help your understand your path forward, many times more affordable than an attorney. Friends and family may or may not understand what you are going through, but unbiased support is critical. Find those who will help you stay open to possibility, future focused, and resilient through the changes. Ask directly for their help and be clear about what you need from them. Your willingness to say, “I’m determined to make this ending a beautiful beginning,” and to have help in order to accomplish that is a sign that you will rise to new heights.

 

About Anella Wetter

Anella is a speaker, writer, and a coach--empowering women to grow from a cracked-open heart. Anella coaches women through relationship transitions--divorce, post-divorce dating, and attracting an ideal match. You can connect with her at www.anellawetter.com

 

Thrive During Divorce--a 90-Day Program for Divorcing Women

This 3-month personal energy-shifting program will help you cultivate your inner power and emerge from this period of your life with new energy and strength!

If you are somewhere in the divorce process or still recovering from a divorce, this program might be right for you.

  • Do you want to start re-writing your story, now?

  • Would you like to identify and clear hidden blocks that keep you from defining the new you, beyond your marriage?

  • Do you need help recognizing your own worthiness?

  • How could you benefit from choosing a new perspective about your ex? 

  • Do you feel ready to claim what you desire in the next chapter of your life?

With a combination of group coaching and individual coaching sessions, you will experience extraordinary support and will learn to see your own energetic patterns with clarity and shift them.

If Thrive During Divorce interests you, the first step is to connect with Anella. Schedule a free coaching call here.

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3 Keys to Create Change, NOW

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3 Keys to Create Change, NOW


How do you make positive change in life—with your body, mind, spirit, career, relationships?
 
The first step is to start now, before the new year. Don't delay. Important change can't be put off. Then, follow these 3 keys to create the changes you most desire.

COMMIT

Doesn’t sound like a silver bullet? Spoiler alert: there is no better silver bullet. You must hold the vision of the change you desire ever-present, and the starting point is to write a pledge to yourself. This pledge can describe what you commit to bring forward, how you commit to show up each day, and what the intrinsic rewards you’ll gain through your determination.

PLAN

Making a plan of what to DO is incredibly important. Yet, if you simply create new things to do every day, you’ll likely not succeed. Why? Because your plate is already full. Likely, if you felt you had the time to devote to making positive changes, you would have already done so. Who doesn’t want to cultivate a healthy body, mind, and spirit? Who doesn’t want a fulfilling career, caring relationships, and a light & joyous spirit? So, the first thing to do is let go. Write down what you will release. Determine what is not serving you enough and let go of it—the activity, the habit, the chore, or the belief.  
 
Determine, then, what you’ll focus your time and energy upon daily. Consider what the person you envisioned earlier would choose each day in order to create positive change. Choose goals with targets 90 days from now. Be intentional in setting these goals—they represent the change you are creating.
 
Then, be specific by planning the next day each evening. For example, if your desire is to practice yoga regularly at a studio, then research local class options and schedule it. Most yoga studios and other fitness places have online scheduling, so you can schedule and pay. That’s a commitment you’ll keep. If your desires is to meditate daily, set your alarm 15 minutes earlier to give yourself that time.

PARTNER UP

Choose a partner who is also committed to positive change and create an accountability plan. Jointly decide how you will help each other.  Maybe you agree to send a photo of your daily journal—where you’ve tracked your practices for creating a healthy body, mind, and spirit. Share your 90-day plans so that you can encourage each other. Send each other inspirational texts to show your support. Being visible with your desired changes allows others to give you encouragement and help you succeed.

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New Year's [Resolution] Now! (Video + Blog)


What could you do to HONOR yourself this holiday season? Start your New Year's Resolutions, now!
 
Truth is, NOW is always the best time to make any changes in your life that you're planning to make sometime in the future. Delaying any action that will create more health, peace, tranquility, strength and calm in your life can be self-sabotage.
 
So don't wait to—

Begin a daily mediation practice
Start a regular exercise habit
Eat healthy food to fuel your body

Starting NOW means in 21 days, you'll have begun the formation of important, empowering habits.
 
Prepare NOW to show up as your very best self next year.
 
Making the commitment NOW means that when January arrives, you're body, mind and spirit are in good care.

To create anything meaningful in life--friendships, intimate relationships, partnerships— personal & professional--you have to start with YOU. Self-care practices signal to yourself that you're worthy of your own time, attention, and effort.

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Gratitude for Negative Emotions


'Tis the season where we hear, read, and think a lot about gratitude. We typically give thanks for the goodness we experience in life, and we wrestle with the negative emotions we feel--anger, jealousy, frustration, disappointment. We try to get rid of those negative emotions by taking positive actions that make us feel better, like exercising or relaxing or reading or talking to a friend or mentor. And, most of us have gotten swallowed up by a negative emotion at times, allowing it to ruin our day or our week by over-indulging in the downward spiral. No judgment for when you've gone there, wallowed in the sadness and allowed bitterness to set up camp. It's all part of this human experience!

I invite you to see these negative emotions as your inner wisdom saying, "pay attention to these feelings," and see them as guideposts, pointing to places within you that are asking for help, asking for you to come more and more into alignment with who you truly are: a divine being of light, destined for greatness, here on Earth in human form to live a life filled with happiness, love, peace, and joy. These negative emotions are simply notifying you that you're ready to transform some old story into a new one that serves your highest and greatest good.
 
What if you were brave enough to say, "I see you, Anger, I am grateful for you, and I'm committed to letting you go"? Could you transform emotions that no longer serve you into ones that do?

Personal transformation can feel hard and elusive, and it's worth every bit of your attention so that you can live with joy and ease. Start by being grateful for your negative emotions and being willing to understand what lessons they offer.
 

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Extraordinary Times--Extraordinary Self-love!

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I think we all can agree that we are living in extraordinary times, and it's easy to lose ourselves and overlook our own needs when it feels a little crazy out there. In my work with clients, I always begin by focusing on their relationship with themselves. Why?

Because your relationship with yourself has the single

greatest impact on your relationship with everyone else.

So, in the chaos in the US following the election and the ripples it's created around the world, I offer you 3 strategies for nurturing your relationship with yourself in this week's video blog.

DISENGAGE

Not feeling great while watching the news? Choose to disengage for at least 48-hours and then assess how you feel. It's an important form of self-care and a way for you to be present with your family. 

CONNECT

Reach out to those people in your life that you think you don't have a lot in common with and just listen. I called a friend this week who has very different political views from mine, and we talked--not about politics--but about life and kids and meaningful work. It was so good for my soul to hear her kind voice.

RADICAL SELF-CARE

Do what makes you feel amazing: take an extra-long soak in the tub, put a puzzle together; color just for fun. We often put everything in front of caring for ourselves, including listening, reading, or watching news that makes us feel frustrated and angry. 

I promise you this: caring for yourself in these critical ways will positively impact every, single relationship you have and will keep your energy in the place to attract love, kindness, patience, compassion, and acceptance--all the fundamental things that create happiness and joy in your life.

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What Are Your Relationship Beliefs?

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What Are Your Relationship Beliefs?

It's true: our beliefs drive our life. What you believe about life, love, & relationships creates your experience. And, you may have beliefs that are blocking you from what you truly desire. To find these beliefs, you must dig in and uncover your beliefs.

Easy? Well, yes, but it takes practice. In order to get clear on what you REALLY believe about life or love or relationships, start by listening to your thoughts. Pay attention to your words, which are simply thoughts that you care about enough to speak. Your beliefs show up readily in your thoughts and words. These prevailing thoughts--the ones that are automatically playing over and over in your head--create your experiences.

Once you see your prevailing thought patterns about life, love and relationships, you have stepped into a state of awareness. With this new awareness, I invite you to ask yourself 3, key questions about your prevailing thoughts:

Why do I have these thoughts?What meaning are these thoughts making about myself? about others? about life?What beliefs must I have in order to be having these thoughts?

There was once a time in my life, for example, that my prevailing thoughts about men, in my "post-divorce 40's," sounded something like this: men in my age range who are single must be deeply flawed; otherwise, they'd be in a successful relationship. Yet, this belief meant that I was limiting what was possible and that I must have believed that NOT ONE of the millions and millions of men on this planet was committed to creating a relationship full of happiness, joy, and love. I must have believed that NOT ONE man on this planet was, like me, creating the next, best version of himself, having learned from his own wounds. How outlandish! How limiting! When I gained this awareness of these beliefs, I was then able to see that it WAS possible that there was ONE human on this planet that did match my own list of what I truly desired in a relationship.

Examining your beliefs can be uncomfortable, even scary, because the awareness you gain will likely call for you to BECOME a new version of yourself.

Are you willing to explore your prevailing thoughts?

Are you willing to let go of beliefs that do not serve you? 

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